The Woman on the Stage

As William Shakesphere famously said “All the worlds a stage”. You are in the play, and the narrator is the voice inside your head.

When you realise yours is not the only play happening in the world and yours is not the only narrative you can choose what part you get to play in Yours, and Yours Alone.

Everyone has their own play, and they are the narrator “The voice in the head” that tells the story. Depending on that person, you could be playing the role of the heroine or you could be playing the villain.  You don’t get to choose what part you play in someone else's play, but you do get to choose in yours.

As a woman in business I believe in order to be successful, you need to have a certain level of confidence in order to have happiness and contentment in your professional and personal life. I have created a framework to happiness that you can follow that will help you attain the unattainable, a life based on confidence over competition, and a life filled with happiness.

Framework to happiness

Consistency

Self awareness

Gratitude

Selfishness

Integrity

Network

Choice

Consistency

Three years ago I read the book Atomic Habits by James Clear. It was profoundly life changing for me. I chose then and there to make small incremental changes to my daily habits that ultimately have changed my life. I started with making my bed. What’s the one small positive change you can make today?

Self awareness.

Figuring out who you really are as a person is a tough thing to do. Recognising the good, the bad and the ugly can be challenging. However if you don’t own up to the bad bits, how can you change them? Figuring out what your values are currently and the type of person you really want to be will help you recognise and accept the true you. You need to be comfortable in your own skin and in your own head to truly be happy with who you are as a person.

Gratitude

In 2020, I began a program of self discovery to try and find happiness and acceptance for myself. I began to practice gratitude each and every day. One day I was struggling so much to find any reason at all to be grateful. I stood over the dishwasher and as I slammed the plates into it feeling so sorry for myself because I had to fill that dishwasher one more time I had an epiphone!! I am so grateful, I get to fill this dishwasher with the dirty plates that contained the beautiful warm nutritious meal that myself and my family ate last night. Remember everybody has a story worse than yours, be grateful for what you have and don’t covet what others have.

Selfishness

Sometimes you need to be selfish and set boundaries. These are there to protect you and your time. Try saying no, you will feel uneasy at first and you’ll slip into thoughts of “what are they going to think about me?” But once you remember you have no say in someone else's narrative, only your own, you will soon learn that you are not being selfish. “Time spent on yourself is time well spent”

Integrity

Be true to you, be true to what you believe wholeheartedly to be good and honest and you will live a life with integrity and no regrets. Don’t recommend or say yes to things you know in your gut to be wrong; this goes against your integrity. Even if it makes you uncomfortable you need to stand up and be your own voice to the things you ultimately believe to be wrong. That way when you draw your last breath you can look back and know you honestly did the best that you could do with the best intentions at the time that you did it. We all will grow and change and our values will change the more we learn, but if you live with integrity you won’t look back with regret.

Network

“Surround yourself with like minded people” is a saying I use so much, but what if the people you surround yourself with are A-Holes? Does this mean you are one too? Possibly! Surround yourself with people who make you want to be a better person, who inspire you and motivate you to challenge yourself to achieve the success that you deserve.

Choice

You choose your part in your play. You choose if today you are going to play the victim, the heroin or the villain. Choose wisely.